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Alya Mizar (Tsybil)
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To Vanad'iels Dear Abby

Post by Alya Mizar (Tsybil) »

Dear Abby

I am in a wonderful three way relationship with another kitty and a sweet Taru boy. Therrre are just not enough suprelitaves to describe the positive aspects of these people. I love them both dearly and never doubt their love for me.

There is only one mouse in this grain silo. He is kind of negative and needy. An example. I get an invite to Valinor, the biggest RP LS on Grauda. His first reaction? "Are you going to leave us? -.-". This is just soooo typical. :roll: OK, they are gamers, I RP, but this is a tad strrrange.

If he is seeking reassurances, he has those. I am naturaly affectionate and demonstrative. I often kiss, hug, hold hands, run my fingers through his hair when we are together. When we are not there will be /tells from me that do much the same thing. The words "I love you" come easily and often, but this all does not seem to help.

If he is seeking rejection.... well that is about the only thing I am unwilling to give. :(

This is driving both us kitties to utter distraction. It can pop up at the MOST inconvienent times. Yes, even those times. :oops:

I am running flat out of ideas, and wish he would parrrk the insecurities at the darrrnit door before he logs on.

Exasperatedly yours
- Tsybil
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Post by Kopopo »

Dear Tsybil,

You are correct in your judgement of your small friend. You say that your relationship with both partners is fulfilling for you, but is for them as well? The key to a good and strong relationship is mutual trust and affection. There are also those who just need that extra bit of assurance when it comes to you venturing into other aspects of life. I see from what you wrote tht you are doing what you may personally feel is appropriate, but you must ask your friend if this is enough for him. Do not expect your own feelings to be those of the people you care about.

If things get worse I can always suggest trying to introduce him to a nice young Tarutaru girl.
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Post by Ambrey »

Hehehe Kopopo always has a solution for everything :lol:
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