MithraPride

Nice guys finish last, I know this all too well

Trying to get him to dump you is cowardly. If he's gonna do it then beat him to the punch and dump him yourself, he sounds like the type to take it as a blow to his "image" or whatever.

Old quote...

Tysbil wrote: How to tell if you are involved with a controling b/f (or g/f for that mater.)

1, You are often off balance or confused.

2, Everything is always your fault. He is always right, you are always wrong.

3, You are the one who must do whatever is necessary to heal things up, never him. This is just and fair because of #2.

4, When you are together and things are OK, whatever you do is all about him, never about you.

5, You have fewer of your old friends all the time, his friends become yours. They always agree with him.

Sounds to me like all the characteristics of women especially 1-3.
Remember the two rules of women;

1) a woman is always right
2) if the woman is wrong refer to rule #1

Blackroses wrote: Guys that treat women like a ass, yelling at them, just complete disrespect are the ones who are getting all the girls.

Not quite right. The guys who keep women off balance and confused get to keep those women even if they "treat women like a ass, yelling at them, just complete disrespect" them..... It works for women who abuse their men too.

Its like this. Too many humans do not understand the difference between being in love and being off balance and confused. I AM NOT JOKING.

Standard abuser behaviour, wether the abuse is physical, emotional, or verbal. First the abuse, then the apology, then the abject sorrow and begging for forgivness. First you must feel fear and pain, then you must feel love and forgivness. Confused? That is the whole idea. The victim has to forgive the abuser. All part of the pattern. Why it works I don't know. But having spent a fairly long life observing humanity, I can say it does work. Far too well. Far too often.

Pavlov sounded a high picthed tone and gave his dogs an electric shock. He sounded a low piched tone and fed them. Once conditioned the dogs would cower at the high picthed tone, and salavate at the low piched tone. Then he slowly brought the tones closer and closer together. Eventually the dogs went crazy. They never turned on him though.

Sylphine, don't just dump him and walk away, dump him and RUN sprinkling gassoline on every bridge you cross and burrning them to the ground behind you. There is no honor in being the dumpee rather than the dumper. There are no points to score for putting up with this behaviour. The longer you stay with him the more you loose.

Sometimes I really wish I could just say one day 'No more mr. nice guy.' and change just like that. But I guess in the end i don't want to...if I'm not good enough as I am then to hell with everyone.

Meh...I always get so depressed when talking about these things...